Do you ever feel like you’re constantly saying sorry?
I know it’s a problem in my life. I’ve become a chronic apologizer; someone who feels the need to say sorry for everything. I mean, don’t get me wrong…Apologizing definitely has its place when I’ve done something wrong or offended someone. However, more often than not, I say sorry when I’ve done nothing other than simply be a human.
I’ve caught myself acting as if saying sorry is the norm for being my natural self, but it isn’t. And I’m finally done. I’m pushing myself and encouraging you to stop issuing an apology for things that don’t warrant one.
I’m done saying sorry for my feelings.
We say sorry way too many times when simply stating how we feel about someone or something. Having feelings is not an offensive act, and it’s okay to be vulnerable and emotional. Everyone gets sad from time to time, as well as angry, irritated and the thousands of other emotions that exist. Experiencing these feelings is part of being human.
I’m done saying sorry for things I can’t control.
We seem to say sorry for anything and everything that goes wrong, but there is no need to say sorry when we have done absolutely nothing wrong. Whatever it may be, if you have no control over it, it isn’t your responsibility to apologize for it.
I’m done saying sorry for speaking my mind.
If something is bothering you, speak up about it. Honesty is important, so don’t hold back because you’re fearful of the outcome. Everyone is entitled to voice their opinion. Your views are valuable.
I’m done saying sorry for having high expectations.
Although people won’t always meet your expectations, that doesn’t mean you should lower your standards. Set the bar high. If something isn’t what you want it to be, then you have the right to say, “NEXT”.
I’m done saying sorry for saying no.
If your heart isn’t in it 100%, it’s only fair to yourself and others to say no. Boundaries are necessary to maintain a happy and healthy life. So, protect yourself by saying no to those who drain you.
I’m done saying sorry for asking for help.
Never apologize for feeling the need to ask for assistance. We all struggle from time-to-time and receiving help doesn’t make you weak or incapable. Asking for help is a sign of wanting to improve yourself and being wise enough to know you can’t always do it alone.
I’m done saying sorry for other people’s behavior.
Stop taking the blame for the poor behavior of those around you. You are not obligated to make excuses for anyone and that includes yourself. We are all responsible for our own conduct and can only control ourselves.
We are all human. It is inevitable that we are going to make mistakes, and we should own up to those mistakes and apologize when the need for it arises. However, we need to make sure we are saving the sorry’s for when we really mean them. If we don’t, our apologies become meaningless. And when we apologize for things that don’t warrant one, we devalue the word altogether. We need to take back the power of sorry by using it less.
Join me in saying, “Sorry, not sorry.”
What do you think?
Are you a chronic apologizer just like me? What are you no longer apologizing for? Share in the comments below or feel free to message me. I’d love to hear from you!
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