You cannot fully love another, if you do not first fully love yourself.

How do you expect to find love when you don’t even love yourself?

You see, it’s hard to accept love from others and love one another when you are starving for self-love. That’s because you can’t give what you don’t have, and not having enough love for yourself means having less love to give others.

I’ve learned that loving must start from within. Self-love is challenging and at times it feels impossible, but trust me it’s not. You are more than capable of giving yourself the love you seek from the outside, even on the days when you want to break every mirror and scream at the top of your lungs.

Self-love is powerful, and it’s about time you made it a priority. So here are some ways to put it into practice….

Love yourself enough to realize that your time and energy is valuable and shouldn’t be spent on finding flaws. Constructively self-criticize, not to break yourself down, but to become a better version of yourself.

Love yourself enough that you don’t seek love from toxic people or places. And don’t allow yourself to go back to unhealthy relationships and situations. Though it might be painful to let go, it’ll be worth it in the end.

Love yourself enough to demand the respect you deserve because you are worth it. Set personal boundaries to maintain balance and protect your body, mind, emotions and time from the behavior or demands of those around you.

Love yourself enough to feel whole on your own. You don’t need a relationship to make you feel satisfied or complete.

Love yourself enough to surround yourself with people who support you and just as equally reprimand you when you’re headed towards destruction.

Love yourself enough to forgive your wrongdoings. Life really is essentially a trial and error kind of deal, so let go of anything that is weighing you down.

Self-love isn’t always easy. The low days are hard, but know that every single person, even the people that seemingly have it all together, have experienced them. So my hope for you is that you learn that you can, you should and you deserve to love yourself wholeheartedly. Once you do, you will find that you can accept the love others extend to you and return that same love.selfloveWhat do you think?
Have you experienced times where self-love seems impossible? What advice do you have for those struggling with self-love? Share in the comments below or feel free to message me. I’d love to hear from you!

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  1. Who knew my daughter would write this column 40 years after I truly needed it. I learned to love myself through the many mistakes I made. I am proud to know she “gets it,” at the age of 25. I pray for her to meet the one who deserves her as she will him. Love you to the moon and back Paige!!!

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