Have you ever thought that maybe female oppression doesn’t just stem from the other gender, but can be greatly attributed to our gender – from other women?
I’m a feminist, but sometimes I really dislike women. The ways women hurt each other is an issue that needs to be addressed alongside equal pay, domestic violence, trafficking and FGM.
Women are sometimes the worst critics when it comes to other women. It’s sad, but true. The way women can treat one another is sickening. We judge fellow females based on their appearances, family choices, careers, decisions, sexuality and everything in between as if nothing is off limits. It’s the female voice I hear the loudest when it comes to not building other women up, but breaking women down. Belittling. Shaming. Chastising. Disrespecting. Judging.
And unfortunately, we have all done it, myself included.
I recently caught myself judging a woman I didn’t even know; judging her on things I knew nothing about. She wasn’t even an acquaintance or someone I’ve ever met in person, but yet I found myself criticizing her. I quickly took a step back and looked inward to examine why I was judging her, and let me tell you, it bothered me to my core. It wasn’t her; it was me, my insecurities.
The hard truth behind judgment is that we judge others because they reflect insecurities we feel about ourselves in some way or another. Society has ingrained in females that other women are the enemies, but this is nothing more than a lie. As women we should be allies to each other, not pinned against one another.
Living in today’s world is difficult enough without others telling you that you’re bad at being you; that you’re a “bad woman.” There are bad people in this world, but there’s no such thing as being a “bad woman” because there isn’t an exact definition of a “perfect woman.” She doesn’t exist. Say goodbye to her now.
Just think about the power and impact women could cultivate if we built each other up, instead of tore each other down due to our own insecurities and jealousies.
I don’t want to be a feminist who is angry at her gender. I want to be encouraged by the words of the beautiful women surrounding me. Likewise, I want to empower and build up my fellow females. We must celebrate and embrace our differences so that we can stand united and fight against injustice towards our gender. Women have a major untapped resource, and that resource is each other.
Ladies, stop judging other women. It doesn’t suit you well. Get it together and stick together. After all, aren’t we fighting for equal treatment, no matter the differences?